RE:FORM News # 46 – Family!


Now that we have wrapped up Quebec and Ontario March Breaks… and following the newsletter I wrote a couple of weeks ago about my growing family, I thought I would spend some time this week sharing some of my own reflections, challenges and learnings about family, especially how I navigate a big blended family when my time and energy is not infinite (as much as I would like it to be!)

There are only so many hours in the day and it seems like everyone is only getting busier and busier which makes finding time and balance harder than ever!

Carving out special time, planning special events and specific outings, etc is important, but given how busy most of us are, these big moments can sometimes be fewer and farther between than we would like.

The biggest thing that I do is focus on quality vs quantity and I do this by making the small moments count. Any time with your kids can be ‘quality time’ if you are engaged, focused and in the moment. For example, Costco can be a bonding family adventure if you go into it with the right attitude (and if you go at prime sample time 🙂 …

Examples of how I try to make the little moments with the boys count:
Getting the kids to help make a meal
Picking the kids up from school on foot and enjoying the 15 min walk home together
Grabbing one of the kids to tag along while I’m running errands… gives us one on one time to chat, sing along to the radio in the car, etc
Getting the big kids to help with Miles’ bed and bath routine… instead of me disappearing for a hour – they are a part of the routine and feel special and valued in their roles as big brother
Extending bedtime by 10 minutes some nights to squeeze in an extra story, a game of chess or a couple of quick rounds of family Crazy 8’s
Before automatically saying ‘not now’ or ‘we don’t have time’ to a request for something like a story, special dinner, game of cards, family activity… I take a minute to think about how long said request will really take and if my answer has to be ‘not now,’ I make sure to indicate when we will make time

These are just a few ideas that I wanted to share with all of you. Watching my boys grow up at lightning speed (and being weeks away from having a newborn thrown into the mix), makes me realize how important my family is to me and how important it is for Kailey and I to savour our time with the kids and each other!

I hope you all have a healthy week and look forward to seeing you soon.

Until then, enjoy the sunny forecast and springtime weather that is coming our way!

Dr. Martin